Hello friends! I can’t believe how long it’s been since I’ve written a post. I’ve been sharing regular updates on Instagram because it’s fast and easy, but sitting down to write a post felt much harder and more serious. I’ve had so much I wanted to share, but I haven’t known how to get started again. I feel like I’m trying to reconnect with an old friend who I’ve severely neglected but greatly missed so I figured the best thing to do would be to just tell you what’s been going on.
The truth is the last three years of been full of upheaval for our family in all of the best and worst ways.
I’ll spare you the chronological breakdown, but over the last three years:
- my husband’s father passed away
- my mother-in-law (who was 80 at the time and has Alzheimer’s) lived with us for a year
- I’ve had two miscarriages
- birthed two babies
- started a second business
- and our son had two brain surgeries
I was also homeschooling, trying to build and redesign my blog, and dealing with everything that comes with being a mom of four, then five, and now six kiddos.
Please know I don’t share this because I think woe is me. I know that even my worst days are great compared to most, but I have felt overwhelmed at times… more often than not if I’m being honest. My bad days started to outweigh the good, and I’ve sometimes felt myself becoming someone I didn’t like.
To say I’ve been in survival mode would be pretty accurate. I often felt like I was running around putting out fires instead of living the peaceful and intentional life I desired, but I didn’t know how to change things. I felt like I was in an endless cycle of sadness and overwhelm, and I was on the verge of quitting just about everything, this blog included.
Enter doTERRA. I can admit that starting a second business on top of everything else we’ve had going on was probably one of my crazier ideas. I actually told my friend I wasn’t interested when she asked because the sane portion of my brain was screaming, “Don’t you dare! You have enough on your plate!” But the crazy little FOMO side was like, “Give it a shot! What do you have to lose?” I thought about it for a couple months, and that nagging “just try it” feeling wouldn’t go away so I jumped in at the end of 2016, a month before giving birth to our fifth child.
When I signed up, I just thought I was signing up to sell oils, but what has happened over the next two years has truly been life changing. I am a big believer that we are the company we keep. Someone said we become like the five people with whom we spend the most time, and I suddenly found myself surrounded (online) by ambitious, energetic business women who had a passion for changing lives, including their own.
In doTERRA, there’s a huge emphasis on personal development and a no excuses attitude that really made me question a lot about my own thought processes and habits. Talk about eye opening! I’ve realized how toxic my mindset has been at times, and that while I can’t always control what happens to me, I can control how I respond. Just knowing that has made a huge difference for the better.
I don’t know what exactly happened or how it came to be, but it felt like a flip was switched in my brain this summer, and I suddenly wanted to get rid of all the things! In the past, I’ve really struggled with decluttering because “So-and-so gave that to me” or “I may need it one day” or “Getting rid of it would be a waste of money…” These are just a few of the ways I’d convince myself to keep things, but I’ve realized that all of this stuff, this clutter, is (for me at least) a symptom of something else going on, and as I’ve worked to let go of the emotional and mental baggage I’ve been carrying, it’s been easier to let go of the material possessions that have been cluttering up our home.
I’ve realized that we can’t improve ourselves without also improving our lives, and that progress in one area can’t help but bleed into and improve other areas as well.
This isn’t to say that I’ve completely parted with my bad habits and negative thoughts. They still pop up more often than I’d like, but I no longer feel stuck or hopeless, and that is a powerful feeling! (and… I just got chills typing that. I’m not kidding when I say life changing!)
So where does this leave things?
Well, I’m excited to say that I have big plans for us. I have a renewed sense of excitement and vision for this community and what it can be. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I can help others with their clutter issues because I’ve broken through such big barriers in my own life, and I can’t wait to share more of this vision in my next post.
I hope you’ll join me on this journey because we all deserve to live happy, organized lives. We just may need a little help or support getting there.
P.S. If you’re on facebook and looking for support, I’d love for you to join the Declutterathon facebook group. It’s a private group where we support and encourage one another on our decluttering journeys, and we just passed 25,000 members today! You’re going to love it!
Your kiddos are beautiful! While i have missed your interactions, i am glad you are back. Your declutterathon group has grown while you were in overwhelm. Because the members provide such value and encouragement to each other.
I too got disgusted this summer by the amount of stuff and clutter. In the past month, i have let go of a too-large sofa and 8 large boxes of stuff. Mostly by using tv commercial breaks as night to put at least 4 items in the ‘outbox’. This month i plan to fill up 8 more boxes and get rid of 32 old XP computer towers and printers that my clients gave to me!!! As you may recall, I made progress a few years ago, but lost steam finishing the last 3 ‘warehouse’ rooms. My plan is to have a functional guest bedroom/bath, living room and office. And to change my acquiring and reluctance to letting go habits.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Those kiddos need you!
Thanks, Linda! I remember how well you were doing. You were motivating me!! Sounds like you’re getting back on track, and fitting decluttering/organizing into every day life’s nooks and crannies is a great idea. I think you’ve inspired me to stop fast forwarding through commercials and use that time to get a little work done! 🙂
Wow! Emily you have have experienced several lifetimes of stuff in these 3 years!!
Praise God you came out better than before, even thru the grief.
Doterra oils are the bomb!!
My daughter and Sis sell them.
CAn’t wait to see where you go from here!
It’s amazing how much can happen in just three years!!
Thank you so much for this post! I feel like i’M spending a lot of my days putting out fires and it feels good to know I am not alone. I am also so excited to hear that you are on the other side of it!
I’m not sure I’m on the other side yet, but I feel like there’s light at the end of the tunnel. You definitely aren’t alone!