This post may contain affiliate links. For more information, please see our Disclosure Policy.
People always say there’s no such thing as the perfect parent, but I think they’re wrong. There are three simple steps to being the perfect parent, and it’s probably easier than most would imagine.
Be the parent your child needs
As a mom with four kids, one thing I’ve realized is that every child is different. What works as an incentive for one child, the next couldn’t care less about. What one enjoys, the others hate. Just when I think I have this mothering thing down, one of my kiddos throws me for a loop, and I have to figure out a whole new way of doing things.
I think one key to being a perfect parent is being the parent that each child needs. Adapting to those needs and wants and treating each child like the individuals they are may mean that each child is parented in a slightly different way, but in the best way possible for him or her in particular.
Trust your intuition
Our parenting intuition is strong, and the more we listen to it, the better. If something feels off, that’s an important sign to pay more attention to it and get to the bottom of the situation.
Parenting books and advice can only take us so far. The best guidance we’ll ever receive is listening to our hearts, taking our children into consideration, and doing what we think is best.
Lots of love
All kids (and parents for that matter) need love. Our kids need to know that we’re there for them and love them no matter what. We’ll inevitably make mistakes, and at one point or another our kids will probably think we’re trying to ruin their lives (yay for teenagers!), but when our actions are motivated by love they can’t be that far off base.
I think the most important thing to remember in parenthood is that the perfect parent will look different for each and every family. What “perfect parent” means will depend on the people involved and their circumstances, and that’s okay. What works in one home might not in another, but that doesn’t mean one way is right and the other wrong. Families can be as different as fingerprints, varied and multiple, but not necessarily better or worse than one another.
People may doubt our decisions or judge us, but if we’re confident in what we’re doing and making those decisions based on what’s best for our families, we’re parenting as perfectly as possible.
How are you the perfect parent for your kids?
I love this! I am also the mother of four kids – and I totally agree – they are different, have different likes, needs and wants. Parenting four boys makes me look like I have multiple personalities – carrying four conversations at the same time, meeting four important needs simultaneously and complimenting four newly built creations within seconds of each other.
Multiple personalities, yes! I always joke that I probably sound like I have Tourette Syndrome to anyone (un)lucky enough to try to have a phone call with me. “I was thinking about making GET DOWN FROM THERE! chicken for dinner and maybe I SAID STOP IT! a side salad.” lol
Reminds me of the marriage saying: “not perfect, but perfect for each other.” So maybe “not perfect parent, but the perfect parent for his/her child.” Sensible advice.